When Curious George and Dora the Explorer are your secret spirit animals, do not be ashamed. The power of curiosity is incredibly powerful, and help shape the person we are and the experiences we go through.

Curiosity does have its downfalls, however, it should not be looked upon as frowned upon. In order for us to know and understand the world, it is important to be curious. Being curious can get us in trouble from time to time, when it is utilized as a scenarios where it is not necessary. With that said, sometimes ignorance is bliss. So, setting boundaries with your curiosity is something that should be taken into consideration.

On a positive note, curiosity and a willingness to explore the world we live in is mostly seen as a positive personality trait. This curiousness that everyone experiences to a certain level allows us to do so much.

Curiosity allows for a craving to learn, which is always viewed as positive. This kind of learning goes beyond textbooks and what we learn, and may sometimes push us to want to actually experience what is unknown to us. In some aspects, our curiosity makes us more knowledgeable.

Traveling is one way your curiosity can be utilized positively. Often, individuals find themselves utilizing their curiosity to learn about the cultures of other nations, explore different parts of the regions, leading to a higher level of cultural awareness. It almost is one of the most motivating factors that dictate our decision-making process.

Among many things, curiosity is something that we all universally feel as human beings and makes us all united. What you are curious about is unique to everyone, but how we go about our curiosity is what sets us apart. However, curiosity is motivating and a beautiful thing.

I, myself, am a very curious person. I truly experience curiosity on a daily basis, as I am always trying to learn and experience everything that I can possible. My curiosity has helped me expand my learning beyond what I am taught in school, and has become one of the most motivating traits that I have attained.

Though society does not highlight the importance of the quality of curiosity, it is something that should be celebrated frequently. As it seems, society has undermined curiosity and placed limitations on the idea of curiosity. The reason is yet not quite understood, as we should all be able to explore our curiosity. If it were at all possible, every one in our entire worldwide community would have access and the ability to explore their curiosity. Though society has placed limitations on this quality, do not let it stop you from attempting to fully embrace that side of you.

Being curious shows a willingness to learn and expand your horizons – these are both positive qualities.

Let your curiosity take over your mind.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

 

Starting Fresh

Sometimes, you just need to rip the bandaid off and just accept your life circumstances, whatever they may be. Sometimes, this requires eating the biggest slice of humble pie, and other times it requires you to indulge in the biggest slice of real pie. However, you cope with it, sometimes you need to “start fresh.”

How can you “start fresh” when you are still exactly where you were two minutes ago, questioning your life, you may ask. My response is by letting go, releasing some tension, realizing your reality, and by having a good, positive attitude about it.

I am ripping my bandaid off really quickly, and starting fresh and having a better outlook on my current life circumstances. I am also letting go, or working on letting go of some old demons, and doing some personal cleansing myself. I have an even lighter perspective on life, as I realize I cannot change many circumstances that life has handed me recently.

Sometimes, you need to be beat down for a little bit to pick up your game – NOT LITERALLY OF COURSE. Life has it’s ways of showing you it still cares for you, through small daily reminders you may not catch. But, sometimes it showers a little harder than you anticipated.

Sometimes, I wish I could change the weather to match my mood and excitement, and recently, I figured out that I could not do that. I forget sometimes that Spring should be full of rain and downpours, literally and figuratively. I honestly wish I could change a lot about my life sometimes, but then I realize that a time machine is impossible and realize that our experiences make us learn special, individualistic things, unique to each and every one of us.

So, coming to terms with things can be difficult at times, and may make you hesitate at the thought of giving life your all. That is okay. Similarly, coming to terms with your current reality is something that may take months, years, even centuries. And, that also is okay. We all take as much time as we need and go through the motions of acceptance at different paces. Some of us linger, some of us do not linger. In addition to accepting life, we also need to take it on with a good attitude. All these steps amount to a sudden realization that your reality is your reality, in addition to, having a profound interest in wanting to make things better for yourself.

Sometimes, we lose track of our happiness amidst all of our problems. And, we forget to kick life in it’s ass. Sometime,s we all even need a shakedown in order to achieve this new, positive way of thinking.

Having a brand new attitude about your current, stable reality will bring a whole new light to your life, and allow you to think beyond your comfort zone. I promise you will start feel like a brand new person, and like your whole world is your oyster. It is a great feeling. Starting fresh with a new attitude, a rested mind, clear head, and a positive attitude is an awesome way to start every day. So, why not make that possible for yourself? Do not let yourself be held back from life’s beauty and its’ endless opportunities.

Whenever you come across this post, I invite you to take a minute to rip that band aid off, start fresh, and begin with a new attitude. You will feel like the best version of yourself. You become more willing to take risks and are able to look beyond your circumstances and problems, some of which are easily fixed. Similarly, you will want to make the initiative to make things better, or to bring more change into your life. These are at least my hopes.

If you can handle even most of the most heartbreaking experiences with a smile left on your face and a clear, healthy perspective, you have already won the game of life. Some days it may not be easy to accept your life, and some days you may feel stuck. Do not let yourself get stuck, by giving life your all even on the days where it is hard to leave your bed. You better start believing that a whole new attitude and a simple perspective change will lead to eternal glory and happiness. You will not regret it.

Leave that old attitude behind, and join me in starting fresh.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #6 – Look Back At It!

Every once in a while, it is important to take a step back, look at the life you have created for yourself, and your current reality, and count your blessings. They say, “never look back,” but sometimes looking back is alright, in moderation, of course!

Do not spend too much time lingering on the past, but sometimes it can truly be rewarding and exciting to take a look at how far you have come, even in the last few days. Every day, we should be growing, learning, and experiencing, and as a result, growing and learning from our experiences. Or, at least that is what I think.

Looking back can in a sense put a positive, motivating perspective and incentive in front of you, as you take a look back at how much the small steps to making changes are making a difference. You have incentives to continue growing when you look back, as we all want to keep growing and adapting to becoming the best versions of ourselves.

Looking back not only allows us to build incentives to continue growing, but it also provides us a sense of awareness. As you look back on things you may consider errors, or things you may have been successful at, or maybe things you want to change about yourself, you build a sense of awareness for not only yourself, but an awareness of others and your daily environments. Looking back on things can truly allow you to unlock your brain, allowing you to access your deepest thoughts. Two of the biggest things that scare individuals of all ages and genders is the past and the future. While looking back can be seen as not being mindful, I think that it is healthy to reminisce or not reminisce about things that have occurred in the past.

Once again, looking back for too long will not only strain your neck, but it can be damaging towards your personal well-being. You do not want to stay hung up on the same issues for years – you want to be able to move on and leave some baggage behind. I believe in a healthy moderation that looking back can allow you to truly access some repressed memories and feelings, and in return, allow you to move forward. Sometimes, in order to move forward, you must go backwards.

If you do not spend time addressing things that you are simply putting off, the burden of holding your emotions in and addressing the issue will build up inside of you. In turn, you will face some long-term consequences from this behavior. As much as we wish to simply silence our worries and fears for the future and the past, I have learned that this is simply impossible. This can mean taking two steps back when you were making progress, to even just simply speaking about the past. As humans, we will all face hardships in our pasts that we barely speak of and experience failures; these are inevitable parts of life. Allowing myself to personally access memories of the past that I have been repressing for years, was one of the most healthiest things I could ever do. Some people do not like talking about their past or their hardships, and I am one of those people. I spent many years repressing this information and my emotions, which in turn led to many self-destructive behaviors and a lack of stability within my life, as I had picked up negative coping mechanism skills. However, by falling back and looking back, I was able to move forward, continue growing, and continue challenging myself every day. Looking back at it can be challenging, but sometimes it is the only way to move forward.

Do not let your past haunt you, but be willing to speak about it to your nearest source of trust and learn to handle your past with care, and with a positive, motivating outlook. Taking a step back every once in a while to recognize your past and how much you have grown is an amazing feeling. Sometimes, the past may be filled with harsh, crude memories, but do not let it cloud your mind. Unlocking your past is one of the most proactive ways of moving forward, because as I said before, you need to look back, in order to move forward. Ignoring your past, which may or may not have included hardships, will lead to a life full of a lack of self-awareness, a lack of motivation, and will lead to behaviors that may become detrimental to your life. Do not dwell too long on your past, but spend time acknowledging it for however long feels necessary. This is important in the game of growth and personal happiness. Looking back serves more purpose than one.

I just took a full month to simply look back at how far I have come in the last few days, even the last six months, and the growth is exponential. I truly think the most rewarding part about thinking about the past is looking at my own personal growth, and not ignoring the things that I need to work on in different aspects of my life. I may need to work on a lot of things, as we are all human, however, I have more of a sense of the importance of getting in touch with my past. We all need something to compare ourselves to something, and while comparing ourselves to others is not a viable option, our past-version of ourselves is a great viable option.

Though you may not acknowledge it, even in the last 24-hours you have changed a little bit, just due to the fact that you have gained more experience just by living. The growth may not be exponential or noticeable, but humans are constantly changing, adapting and growing just simply by living out their daily routines. Sometimes, we like to compare our current version of ourselves to a version of ourselves from years ago, or even days ago. This is a good game you can play with yourself. Thoroughly examining your past during various points in your life, and asking yourself questions about what you used to be like, who your friends were, what your hobbies were, etc. allows you to gain a certain understanding about the kind of person you are, the kind of company you keep, what is important to you, what your skills are, etc. It truly allows you some time to think about your priorities, as well, among other positive things. In addition, it allows you to gauge what aspects of your life you have grown in, as well as, to acknowledge areas where improvement is needed or has not been made. Please, do not even bother trying to compare yourself with others. If you maybe see traits in others that you may respect or would like to work on, than that is different. When comparing yourself to a past version of yourself, a great tip is to think of the most ideal, or a loosely perfect, version of yourself. What do you see? Do you see a positive, outgoing person? A more secluded, happier version of yourself? Do you see a person constantly surrounded by people? What are traits you would like to exude and work on? These are all questions you can ask yourself. The more you examine yourself and continue to experience, the more answers you will get for yourself

Being self-aware allows for less surprises in the long-run, as certain behaviors or tendencies that may be negative or positive will soon become acknowledged, and hopefully allow for some room to change. This self-awareness extends onto others, as you become more self-aware about the way you make others feel. If you are constantly negative, acknowledging and changing that habit will not only make you feel better, but it will also make others feel better. I believe that being self-aware allows you to become the most comfortable, most confident version of yourself. This comfortability and confidence will exude onto others. Note that the sooner you are happier with yourself, the sooner you can begin making others exceedingly joyous.

Gauging your past should be done with a trusted source, and also a person who can emotionally, physically, and mentally be present, who also is able to help. Some situations in our past are bigger than you, your friends, and even your parents. That is okay, though. There are resources out there that allow you to seek professional help, if that is what is needed. Also, seeing a therapist is something I would recommend to anyone, because who does not love blowing off some steam? I certainly do.

The real question now is why not look back @ it?

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

A.M. Rituals

There’s something about starting every morning with something meaningful and unique to oneself. Whatever it is, morning rituals are important to everyone. Even if you do not even think about it, we all have a set of steps that we follow each morning to guide us in the right direction and get us in the mood to attack each and every day.

Mine is dictated by music, a cup of coffee (sometimes a huge one!) and donuts, showering, and blogging. I usually try to color, hike and write a daily list of blessings when I have the time, as well. I keep my mornings fairly simple for the most part, but also fairly active. The other day I went to the sauna, and some days I go through filtering through my emails. Some days, my daily morning rituals are cycled in for new hobbies that I would like to discover, so truly morning rituals can be dependent on the day and what you personally feel like. But, for the most part, the coffee and donuts are incorporated.

I try to make my mornings a time to get pumped up and hyped for my day that’s about to steamroll by.

Some people may stretch, others may go to the gym, some of us make a cup of tea and wind down – it’s all unique and personal to each and every one of us.

Sometimes, we need to switch up our morning rituals, as our needs become different, due to uncontrollable outside forces, such as a different work schedule, changing time zones, late nights out, new class schedules, etc.

It is important to set time aside for yourself in the morning, since I believe that it is the time that we all have the most energy flowing within us and when we can think the clearest, since our minds have yet to be clouded by our day’s messes and stressors. Mornings are also big dictators for our mood the rest of the day sometimes. Therefore, how we spend our mornings is important to each and every one of us.

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Making your mornings a priority just for yourself is something I would recommend. I love being a morning person – I feel like I get the most out of my days waking up early in the morning. Plus, it leaves me with more time to adventure, be curious, and live. I always notice how much I appreciate my mornings when I have to work early, or only during my mornings. I honestly believe that spending time making morning rituals are important for your own personal sanity!! There’s nothing I hate more than sitting with myself bored and not sure what to do with my mornings.

Cycling in other activities into your mornings can be fulfilling. Whether you like your mornings jam-packed with activities or full of lounging, depends on your mood, your personality, and your general energy levels. Keeping my mornings simple is a personal preference.

Either way, mornings are a great time to spend with yourself, accomplishing small tasks, lounging, and being with yourself. If you are beginning to get to know yourself, starting with spending your mornings independently is a great step!

Cherish your mornings and make them fun! We only have so many! What are your morning rituals?

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Job Interview Protocols

The whole process of getting a job can be long and tiring, sometimes I want to quit after looking at the application or my resume. This is normal though!

Sometimes, we are all lucky enough to get a job interview after submitting a completed application. The application or resume process is honestly much easier, however, the job interview is key. The interview is a way for your potential employer to get to know you more personally, and succeeding at the job interview can be confusing, difficult, and sometimes it can even be easy.

Here are some protocals for your job interview that will at least give you better odds that you will either get a second interview, or potentially the job.

  1. Dress Appropriately – A job interview is one time when you should truly be worried about whether you are dressed appropriately. You need to dress the part and present yourself exceptionally, so they can form an opinion of whether you are taking the job seriously. The way you dress should reflect the job position you are applying for, and you should present yourself accordingly. Regardless of the kind of job, you should always dress formally. Business casual is okay for more relaxed working environments. Formal is always key and owning a blazer or two would not be such a bad idea. Do not wear cleavage-bearing tops, form fitting items, sheer items, and maybe try a button-up and some loafers. Dressing nicely is also a form of respect, showing whether you truly value the job, so it could come off as a poor representation of your self. Plus, it is quite rude to be under-dressed. In addition to not being undressed, you do not want yourself wearing anything too extravagant. Keep it simple, and use mellow tones – this is not a fashion show. You need to come off as clean, dressing wildly has its’ places, but that is not at a job interview.
  2. ORAL HYGIENE – This one is self-explanatory. Since you will be formally meeting someone, it is important that you brush your teeth right before your interview. No, it does not mean that job interviews are the only time you should brush your teeth. But, you do not want to be radiating weird smells from the leftover tuna you ate right before the interview. As I said above, keep it clean, in every sense and form of the word. You do not want to give them any reasons not to want to talk to you. This one kind of goes on without saying that it’s important that you present yourself neatly. Just try to be hygienic…the last thing you need is the way your smelling to be distracting them from the real deal, YOU.
  3. Research, Research, Research – Even if this is your dream job and you may know everything about this company you have received a job interview opportunity with, it is very important to do some background research about the company. Also, looking at the company’s website gives you an idea about their brand, their purpose, and allows you to be educated about facts that you can resource during the interview. This may seem like over-the-top, but making sure you are at least aware of where you will be working and their brand is something that you should prioritize. Plus, interviewers generally love when you have gone out of your way to get to know more about the position – it shows dedication and self-motivation.
  4. Actually listen and be attentive during the interview – No, this is not the time to be spacey and dozing off. You need to be listening to what the interviewer is saying, as they can reference old questions, be expecting you to remember things, etc. It’s also simply rude not to listen and pay attention to the interviewer. So, give them your full and uninvited attention. A great communication skill I’ve learned to utilize during interviews is repeating what they said, so I can confirm whether I was actually listening to everything that they said. If you forgot, it is okay to ask. Just try to keep it to a minimum, but asking them to repeat a question is not a crime. Being attentive means that you are also acknowledging what they are saying without interrupting them, so nodding your head occasionally and using assuring words, such as “right,” “I see,” and “yes” are appropriate.
  5. Print Off A Resume – This is something that in the current day and age is not really essential, but it can show a form of professionalism. Remember, they are basing their decision off of your outward professionalism. It shows that you are prepared and are responsible, just in case they have lost your resume or have to pull it up. Just be prepared for everything.
  6. PRACTICE (EVEN IN THE MIRROR) – Practicing exceptional communication skills is vital. Practice speaking calmly, and softly to yourself in order to prepare yourself for the interview. I also recommend engaging in eye-contact throughout your interview, so practicing in the mirror is essentially like practicing in front of someone else. You do not realize how awkward you can get under pressured social situations, so it may alleviate some stress to practice things that you can say. Make an effort to practice your communication skills in mirror, so you can also observe yourself while you practice. Make sure you look as natural and calm as possible. Being fidgety, playing with your hands, and slouching over are things that you want to avoid, especially during the interview. If you observe yourself doing any of these things, try to make a point of it to practice.
  7. Google Potential Interview Questions & Have Answers Prepared – Always be prepared. These days you can Google just about anything and get a thorough answer to all your questions. Knowing what your interview could entail and what questions are potentially asked is a good way to avoid being caught off guard by challenging questions. There are many blogs that discuss potential questions for every field of work. This is truly helpful and helps me feel prepared and more aware about questions that they will be asking. Not all the questions will be asked that you researched, but you get a general idea.
  8. Figure Out What Your Biggest Weakness Is and Somehow Make It Positive – I find that disclosing your biggest weakness is the hardest. During an interview, it is your time to shine, so it just does not seem right to be talking about things that are degrading about yourself. Try your hardest to make this “negative” trait positive and try to come up with a creative answer. You are even welcome to Google answers that others have used. I do this and it truly helps. Also, most interviews always include this question, so this question is half the battle.
  9. Go Over Your Resume & Employment History – Employers always ask questions about your previous jobs. So, going over your resume the night before or prior to the interview will be helpful. They will often ask questions encompassing your job duties from your past jobs, and ask questions about how you can relate these duties into this job. You will not skip a beat if you do this! Employers always, always ask questions about your previous employment, so be sure to review.
  10. Show Up 10-15 Minutes Early To The Interview – Use these 10-15 minutes to not only appear responsible, timely, and dependent, but it also gives you time to review what you are going to say, calm down, or catch a breathe or some air after sweating. Whatever you have to do, even if it is brushing your teeth or changing into new shoes, showing up early allows you to truly calm down. I know I hate feeling rushed and I can never think straight if I am constantly thinking about how I am not early enough. Showing up at least 10 minutes early shows courtesy and shows that you respect the time of the interviewer. Beyond that, it shows that you are responsible, reliable, and have good time-management skills.
  11. Try To Be Composed and Natural – Try your hardest to remain calm, composed and natural during your interview. This is your time to show off and show them your personality. Try not to show your nervousness as much as possible, and try to treat it like a conversation with a stranger. The more interviews you go through, the more natural it will become…NOT! It is always scary for everyone, so try your hardest to leave your fears in the waiting room and conquer this interview. Toot your horn a bit, after all you’ve made it this far!xo,Aichan Tewahade

Life Hack #5 – The Power of Positive Thinking

Even on your hardest days, positive thinking and actions are always encouraged. It’s true life gets difficult, forcing us to dig even deep down within us to even find the positive in your life. Positive thinking may be difficult on even the best days, as it’s easy to complain and forget to count our own blessings. But, we are human.

Today, I encourage you to continue to dig deep and challenge yourself. I find that I am most positive when I am giving something new a try, or simply just challenging myself. Trying something new to me is something that truly challenges me.

Lately, however, life gave me a shock up my spine; things got difficult and I had to find lots of courage and strength to get through many of my days. Finding small, unique positive aspects of my days were really important to me and helped the days go by much quicker and happier.

I feel that when you are challenged and in difficult situations, you realize how much even the smallest things matter to you and it truly forces you to become a more positive version of yourself. Even the smallest things these days make me happy. The hard times allow you to truly become the grateful, positive version of yourself you want to be, as you recognize all the beautiful things that you took for granted the last few days.

I promise you though, that a positive way of life is much more meaningful and fun version of living. Why not find the light at the end of the tunnel and make it possible for your life to be better and more meaningful? A constant state of complaining, and an unwillingness to want to make things better is not a relevant way of living these days. Similarly, positivity challenges you, forcing you to think of good thoughts and radiate positive emotion, rather than letting your brain get flooded by negative thoughts.

Negativity is an inevitable part of life, but a willingness to make things better and better yourself is key. You can be extremely successful being negative – do not get me wrong, but do you want to live like that?

When life really challenges you, it really does rain and pour. But, instead of approaching it with more negativity try combating with positive energy. The way I see it the more you are positive, the more positive outcomes that will come of it.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade