I am _____________.

What am I?
That’s the real question.

I know that I am a human being, and that is one of the only labels that I ever wish was used to describe me.
Unfortunately, this is not the case.
Many labels are associated with my existence, including negative and positive labels, depending largely on the individual labeling me.

Labels are unfortunately inevitable, and human beings, as well as our society, enjoy utilizing labels to describe, define, and pass judgement on others.
Even more unfortunately, negative labels are inevitable as a human being, as our society seemingly enjoys using labels in a negative connotation, in order to categorize, group, and associate, or even differentiate, individuals.


I am imperfect.

While this is an unsettling label to have to live with, I am human, which ultimately means that imperfection is part of my genetic makeup and DNA.
These imperfections, or flaws, are things that you should not punish yourself for, as they are the parts of yourself that set you apart from others.
However, a handful of new labels can come from your imperfections, as individuals will continue to judge and label you for your unique, or “flawed,” qualities.
Labels can be applied to both physical and intangible qualities.

I am clumsy.
I am ditzy.
I am forgetful.
I am a complainer.
I am distracted.
I am temperamental.
I am sensitive.
I am emotional.
I am loud.
I am fast-paced.
I am over thinking.
I am eccentric.
I am unique.
I am irritating.
I am energetic.
I am lazy.
I am anxious.
I am intense.
I am passionate.
I am annoying.
I am happy.
I am impulsive.
I am confused.
I am EXTRA.
I am crazy.
I am weird.
I am a try-hard.
I am competitve.
I am hypocritical.
I am curious.
I am naÌve.
I am opionated.
I am critical.
I am gullible.
I am stubborn.
I am sassy.

The list could truly go on for days, but I figured I would stop here.
These qualities are some of the many facets that makeup my personality, and myself.
Descriptors of all sorts can be used to describe others, but many of these descriptors, or labels, have a negative connotation. The way to overcome these imperfections, or unique facets of your personality and inner workings, is to learn to look at them with a new positive perspective.
I dare you to put a positive twist on your imperfections.
Your imperfections are given to you, in order for you to learn to utilize them in the real world. Find outlets or opportunities that allow you to showcase your “imperfections,” or qualities that make you who you are. It is especially pertinent to be able to use these qualities for your benefit, so instead of sulking over that stupid label, utilize it and manipulate it for your advantage.

Of course, this is all much easier said than done.
I can say for certain that these imperfections of mine have gotten me into a lot of trouble, but at the same time, they have been the reasons for some of my biggest blessings.
It truly just depends on whether you would like to look at things as a glass half full, or a glass half empty.

Labels can really take the form of an ugly creature, especially when negative, malicious labels are used against you.
Words, such as “ugly,” “fat,” “skinny,” “emaciated,” “loser,” “bitch,” “faggot,” “gay,” etc. can really hit home for most individuals, as these labels can really be internalized and cause serious damage to someone.
Personally, as a girl with a very fast metabolism and a very petite frame, I have been around the block when it comes to vicious labels about my weight and small frame.
“You are anorexic,” “you are emaciated,” “you are disgusting,” “you are so bony,” “you have an eating disorder,” “you are SO skinny,” and finally, “you are TOO skinny.”
Our society worships the idea of being skinny, as our society, by popular belief, has decided that being skinny makes one attractive.
While many individuals would idealize having such a small frame, or being unable to gain weight, my small frame actually is one of the many things that I am not proud of, as it draws unnecessary attention towards me.
I let these labels and opinions affect me so much so that I would never wear form-fitting clothing and felt uncomfortable wearing clothes that may have shown, not even show off, my body shape.
The baggier the clothes, the less people were able to identify my size, or so I thought myself. So, I chose to hide my body by wearing clothes that were comfortable nonetheless, but did not always make me feel good.
I felt as though my body and my small frame almost offended individuals, or bothered them, as it seemed to be one of everyone’s favorite topics to address with me.
My secret to keeping a small frame is something that I have yet to find out, because I can tell you for sure that my diet is far from healthy. I can also eat more than a boy going through puberty, however, for some reason, I am still unable to gain any form of substantial weight.
I do not know what to say other than, “I have tried time-and-time again.”
This is something about myself that I cannot change, so I naturally had to accept my body and learn to love this small, bony body that allows me to do all the things that I love to do.

Unfortunately, labels are mandatory in some aspects of our society, especially when it comes to mental health, as one must receive a diagnosis, in order to receive help.
In this sense, professionals utilize labels in order to categorize and to diagnose your symptoms.
Having a professional psychiatric diagnosis can come with its’ own negative labels and connotations, as many will attempt to utilize your diagnosis to label you in a negative light.

According to a handful of professional doctors, my existence comes with a handful of labels, as a result of my unique biochemical makeup.
So, here it goes…

I am complex PTSD.
I am OCD.
I am social anxiety.
I am panic disorder.
I am agoraphobia.
I am phobias.
I am ADHD.
I am six types of ADD (classic ADD, inattentive ADD, overfocused ADD, temporal lobe ADD, limbic ADD, ring of fire ADD, and anxious ADD).

With these labels automatically associated with my existence, it is quick for strangers to continue what professionals have addressed and continue associating me with unprofessional labels.
unfortunately, these strangers, or peers, do not have professional qualifications to diagnose me with labels that fall outside of these psychiatric disorders in which I have been diagnosed with.
And, I am not going to lie, mostly because I am horrible at it anyways, these unnecessary labels formulated by various individuals experiences with me, or through word-of-mouth, were and still are hurtful and greatly offensive.
It is incredibly difficult not to internalize these outside opinions, as I have spent years obsessing, internalizing, and believing these horrible labels that others have attempted to shove my way.
For someone who is so critical of myself in order to avoid getting labeled, I really ended up with a handful of labels, especially when it comes to my mental health. It is truly ironic, as I actively have always worked to be as close to perfect as possible, in the hopes of facing any negative criticism from myself, as well as others. Unfortunately, getting labeled with these diagnoses was not something that I asked for and these labels are the last possible thing that I could have ever just had handed to me.
But, I cannot run away from these labels, as they are a significant part of my life, and allow me to understand myself and somewhat understand my actions, behaviors, and reactions.
Why I have so many labels is a mystery to me…The world works in such interesting ways, am I right?
I can tell you for certain that the more that you listen to these comments, which are simply just opinions and not based on facts, you may start to believe them, and in turn, react in a way that coincides with that label.
For example, for many years, and still to this day, people have told me that I am crazy. In fact, I have been called various synonyms of crazy, as well.
And, for a while, I took this offensively, ran with it, and internalized it.
I would literally try (VERY HARD) to be “crazy,” because that is what I thought people wanted, and that is what I thought people thought of me. So, naturally, I began believing that I was much more crazy than I already am and began acting out. With anxiety like mine, I began obsessing over how crazy people thought I was, even though I was not even THAT crazy, but if a large majority of people are saying I am, then that must be so.
Instead of being “crazy busy,” “crazy lazy,” or “crazy fun,” I internalized this label in a negative light, which only fueled my fire to attempt to showcase a very extreme version of “crazy.”
To be honest, trying THAT hard to be something that I simply am not was extremely tiresome, extremely difficult, and required an extreme amount of motivation, which was fueled by the labels.
I would think to myself, “They think I am crazy? Well, I can give you crazy. Let me show you what crazy actually is!”
The point of this story is that I let these labels get to me, and instead of turning a cheek, or simply embracing my eccentric existence, I decided to go out of my way to put on a show for myself (because who really actually cares and who really actually wants to watch), in an attempt to try to embrace this label.
This was simply not constructive behavior, and in fact, I did not do a very good job at acting the role of “crazy.” If I had to grade myself on the effort, I would give myself an A+, but my execution was C-, at that.
I was trying to prove a point to the world, but instead, I forgot that everyone else is so entirely wrapped up in their own worlds that no one truly was watching my “crazy show.”
The funnier part about this time of my life was that all my close friends, who know me very well, treated me no differently and did not buy into my act. In fact, they kept telling me and reassuring me that I was completely sane, which completely defeated the purpose of trying to act “crazy.”
This was the complete opposite reaction that I wanted!
I clearly did not do a very convincing job, and have to do better next time.
My efforts were truly for nothing, as I realized that the only opinions that truly matter are your own, which also include your tight-knit support group, who always love, support, and cheer you on.

In my day, I have been labeled a lot of negative things. A lot of these labels emerged as a result of my diagnoses, as many people find it difficult to understand me, accept me, and be patient with me.
I am a very confusing and controversial person to understand, as many people have come to understand that I have more layers than an onion.
Many of my behaviors, actions, and words are confusing and make people wonder where my head is at, but I sware it is right where it needs to be, which is right above my shoulders.

I am misunderstood.
I am an acquired taste.

It is no one’s fault truly.
I am like a grapefruit, because when you first try grapefruit, not that many people like them right off the bat, as they are very tangy and very startling to one’s tastebuds. But, grapefruit tends to grow on people, and with time, you begin slowly acclimating to it.

Maybe, I am tequila. 
Tequila is a contradiction, as it is truly an acquired taste and not many people truly enjoy it. In fact, people love to hate tequila! However, people are still willing to drink it, because tequila gaurantees a good time (most times), poor decisions, and a break from reality. Though most people hate drinking tequila, everyone still tolerates it and can always count on tequila for a not-so-memorable time.

With that said, I also know what and who I am, or at least I think I do.
I can for certain say that I know what and who I am more now than I did a year ago.

I am strong.
I am charismatic.
I am fun.
I am intelligent.
I am friendly.
I am motivated.
I am energetic.
I am beautiful.
I am trying.
I am hardworking.
I am patient.
I am kind.
I am forgiving.
I am exciting.
I am open-minded.
I am witty.

I am perseverance.
I am creative.
I am hilarious.
I am awkward.
I am outgoing.
I am adventurous.
I am a lover.

♥ I am me ♥

You see even with all these labels attached to me, I still would like to think that I have some redeemable qualities, whether people recognize it and appreciate it should not matter.
All that matters is that you appreciate yourself and learn to practice that notion we call self-love.
This is very difficult for me, as I have always been an individual who was quick to criticize themselves, and take every loss and mistake too personally and too seriously.
I am always thinking about ways I could have been “better,” and often fall into the pattern of simply just punishing myself for small mistakes, or faults, that I may have made throughout the day. Even if I have not made a mistake, there is always something MORE I could have done.
Instead of simply letting things go, I begin picking myself apart and letting this mistake define myself, my self-worth, etc.
It is a toxic cycle!
With mistakes and losses, there comes labels, which I am always trying to avoid. However, labels always seemingly make their way into my life.

Labels are being dropped more frequently than human beings drop their phones on their faces while they are texting laying down.
That is saying a lot!

Labels are all fun and games, until you let these labels get the best of you. While most labels are thrown around with a negative connotation behind it, do your best to utilize this information, or this label, to your advantage.
While you cannot control other people, you can control what you do with these labels, or descriptors, of yourself. Labels, as bad as this sounds, can actually be beneficial to a certain extent, as labels are often based upon observations and experiences that others have had with you. You can find out a lot about the way that you may come off from an outsider’s perspective from people labeling you. Maybe, there are things that you can work on and improve on, which means that the control the label was supposed to have over you is no longer existent.

Labels will be around until the Earth decides to rest in peace, or human beings become extinct. And, while labels are great to use to identify people, things, places, etc., realize the power that a label can have on a person and their ability to live.
Stop telling people what they are and let people figure it out for themselves – that is, unless they wish to seek your help.

Next time someone tries to label you, just simply respond, “I know you are, but what am I?”

All I know is that…

[I am human]
[I am hungry]

[I am parched]
[I am tired]

What are you?
I challenge you to fill in the blanks and share your labels, and your experience, with them with me.
I am ________.

Do not let others tell you what and who you are, you be the judge of that.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

 

 

In My Perfect World

If you could construct your ideal world, what would it be like? What is your perfect world?

With all the terror and chaos occurring within the world, this theme of creating the most perfect haven has continuously made its way into people’s conversations, as everyone chimes in an attempt to insert their unique opinion and insight on how the world can get two steps closer to being “perfect.”

If you had all the power in the world, what would you do? What would make you happy? What is your utopia?

It is a hard concept to wrap your head around since perfection is an unattainable quality. It’s one of those questions that makes you think.

I complain a lot, which is a habit I need to completely kick out the window since in ’95. My incessant complaining had me thinking what it would take for me to not nitpick my reality, or find something to complain about.

In high school, I read this Tweet that stated, “People who complain more live longer,” Let’s just say, I took it to heart and ran with it. Oops…don’t trust everything you read on the Internet.

In my utopia, or my perfect world, I would own a bunny. One that was very similar to my last bunny, Tubz. I would want more clothes and shoes, which is very superficial.

In my perfect world, there would be no violent conflict, but better conflict resolution strategies. This utopia would focus on the integration and unity of our world. Of course. along with it, no one would be hungry and there would be homes above everyone’s head.

World peace, right?

I would want more rainbows, the existence of unicorns, no animal cruelty, more smiles, much more kindness, more art, more nature, less societal standards, easier accessibility to opportunities for all, health care for everyone, higher minimum wage, free, or affordable, education, cheaper housing, etc.

This sounds very cliché and probably a bit silly. Honestly, because I am not too sure how to answer this question.

Coming from a college kid’s perspective, I have no idea what a “perfect world” would be like. To a certain extent, the world needs some chaos, in order to evolve, grow and revolutionize.

As I sit here thinking about all the small, or even enormous, issues that I would change about the world, or simply irritate me, I also sit here wondering if there is ever a way to create a perfect utopian, or if these changes that I stand by would truly solve some of the problems, issues, and inconveniences I find myself facing.

Many of the things that our society is currently fighting for, including equal rights, world peace, environmental sustainability, gun violence, bullying, animal cruelty, mental illness, etc., are all issues that I spend a lot of time thinking about. But, will one person’s idea of a solution to that problem, actually result in a solution for all these solutions?

The answer to that question is “no,” but is there really one right answer about how to solve all the problems of the world, including everyone’s personal problems that currently live on this Earth.

We always joke about how “in a perfect world” bad things would not happen, or things could just go our way without having to do anything. To a certain extent, in a perfect world, every single human being would be able to do exactly what their hearts desired and get what they wanted, without having to lift a finger. We conceptualize that if we got everything that we so desired that we would all be eternally happy, and as a result, there would be no problems.

But, these days, everyone seems to have a problem.

In a world where everything we pleased is too attainable, eternal happiness and the diminishment of problems would not occur. Instead, eternal chaos and greed would run rampant. Beyond that, laziness would become a legitimate health issue, in this utopian world.

I have idealized and even resented other people’s realities, wishing I was handed the same circumstances that I witnessed them experiencing. I literally have spent many years obsessing over various people’s  reality, circumstances, and life, constantly telling myself that if I was them and had their life that my life would be perfect.

It is easy to envy a person’s life, or their lifestyles. It is even easier to resent a person for their life, circumstances, opportunities, vacations, money, etc., due to our perception of their life. This leads to a dangerous habit, as you begin playing a victim card, instead of actively attempting to solve problems.

There is no actual guarantee that if you were someone else, or lived their life, that your life would be any easier, or better.

Chaos would result from a utopia, where every single human being could have anything they wanted and do whatever they want.

Our problems, while they are not good per say, allow us to unite and come together with others who may share the same belief. Our problems are also some of the only things in our world that people actually pay attention to, because for some reason people crave problems. Problems keep people aware, conscious, growing, maturing, learning, experimenting, and open-minded.

Human beings may have just been put on this Earth to create problems, or to seek out problems. It is just in our nature!

Our society focuses so intently on the problems that are occurring currently. This can be viewed as a bad thing, but reporting on and addressing problems or mishaps within a society reminds people that there are still so many ways that our world could improve. So, people are able to come together and exert some passion towards fighting to solve, or bring change, towards some of the issues that our society faces.

Problems also allow for the birth of new ideas, new perspectives, and new beliefs. Addressing problems must be followed up with finding solutions to these problems, or attempting to discover a solution that benefits, or assists, the majority of those experiencing a problem first-hand.  Finding a solution brings individuals together, and these individuals all have different beliefs, perspectives, and ways of thinking and problem-solving. With the utilization of more than one individual, the potential to find a uniquely formulated solution from individuals of different backgrounds, beliefs, morals and experiences, is infinite.

There is so much right with the world, but there is also so much wrong in the world.

If I could be a superhero, I would wear a cape and help everyone overcome their problems. But, unfortunately, the extent in which I would like to resolve everyone’s problems is simply requires more than a cape.

My current reality is somewhat utopian.

I would rather choose to be happy and to live my life out than live in a world that would produce absolute chaos, and that would produce and exhibit extremely undisreable results.

I have everything I ever wanted and more right in front of me. I am currently living in a utopia!

The only things I would actively like to change about my life circumstances is having to pay so much money to attend college, in which I would wish for affordable education. I would ask for one more thing, which would be to own a pet bunny.

The idea of perfect is a concept that is impossible to grasp, let along imagine. I do not know what “perfect” would even be like, and I cannot even conceptualize this far-fetched idea. So, I choose to believe that the world I was born into and the life that I have to be (almost) perfect, mostly because I do not know any other life, nor have I ever lived someone else’s life.

What is your idea of a utopian world? What would your utopia be like?

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

 

The Kylie Jenner Pregnancy Phenomenon

It is about that time we address the Kylie Jenner pregnancy phenomenon, as she left us hanging and out-of-the-loop for about nine months.

For months, society was questioning the ultimate question of the 2018 – whether or not Kylie Jenner, the make-up mogul, was pregnant or not? Papparazzi shots began surfacing hinting at a possible baby bump at every opportunity possible. Cue photoshoppers beginning to leak retouched photographs of Jenner’s pregnancy now.

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The public barely even knew for sure whether or not Jenner and Travis Scott were even still together, as cheating rumors and breaking-up rumors began surfacing the web and magazines everywhere.

The public desperately searched and dug for answers, as her family members and close friends remained hush about the matter.

To alleviate matters and suspicions, the family informed the public about Kim’s recent pregnancy, via surrogate, and Khloé’s pregnancy news, which left people wondering exactly where Kylie was to either deny or confirm the news.

While the public could only speculate, it seemed that Kim’s pregnancy, Kylie’s pregnancy and Khloé’s pregnancy were only a few weeks apart, making their due dates suspciously close to each other. The confirmation of both Kim and Khloé”s pregnancy only fueled the flame for the public to assume that Jenner was indeed pregnant with Travis Scott’s child.

After months of unanswered, the question of the century was finally answered when Jenner released a heartfelt YouTube video that featured footage of Jenner’s whereabouts and activities over the course of her pregnancy.

“To Our Daughter” was the name of the 11 minutes and 33 second video, recapping all of the monumental moments of Jenner’s pregnancy.

The heartfelt video showed clips throughout her pregnancy, often featuring her close friend’s and family speaking about their thoughts and feelings about her pregnancy.

While Jenner’s social media and outward personality appearance is not what many would categorize as “motherly,” her friends and family both vocalized and expressed how great of a mother Jenner was going to be. According to her close friends and family, having a child had been a dream of Jenner since she was 15-years-old, and now, another one of her dreams was becoming a reality.

The video, along with an Instagram of Stormi embracing Jenner’s finger, were published onto her Instagram on February 4, 2018. The photo of Stormi’s hand grasping Jenner’s finger broke the Internet, quickly becoming the most liked photograph on Instagram.

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Stormi Webster graced the Earth on February 1, 2018, as rapper Travis Scott and makeup mogul Kylie Jenner welcomed their first child together.

Rapper Travis Scott and Jenner started dating as soon as Jenner and ex-boyfriend and rapped, Tyga, had broken up. While Jenner’s relationship with ex-boyfriend Tyga was quite tumultuous and dramatic, Jenner and her close circle claim that her relationship with Travis Scott is much different, and as a result, she is much happier.

While Jenner’s social media and outward personality appearance is not what many would categorize as “motherly,” her friends and family both vocalized and expressed how great of a mother Jenner was going to be. According to her close friends and family, having a child had been a dream of Jenner since she was 15-years-old, and now, another one of her dreams was becoming a reality.

During the duration of her pregnancy, Jenner managed to stay below the radar, fool the public, and stay out of the public eye, choosing to refocus her energy and focus on preparing for motherhood.

Normally active on all social media platforms, specifically Snapchat, Jenner slowly began scaling back on her Snapchat game. This leave of absence from Snapchat left everyone wondering, “WHAT WAS GOING ON?”

Months of ambiguous Instagrams left us all wondering whether this was a publicity stunt or if she was truly pregnant, as her normally revealing Instagrams were quickly replaced with Instagrams that were far from revealing. Jenner wore baggy clothes that hid her midriff and did everything but hug her body, and these baggy clothes quickly became the statement pieces of her outfits during her pregnancy. This new “baggier” image of Kylie left fans, citizens, and haters more curious as to what was going on with Jenner.

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As if this was not enough, Jenner was seemingly absent from The Kardashian-Jenner’s Christmas party and their infamous #DAY25 Christmas card campaign.

The nine-or-so months that Jenner decided to remain out of sight and detoxing from social media was quite impressive to witness, as it seemed that Jenner could NEVER stop publicizing herself on social media. Forget Keeping Up With The Kardashians, I can barely keep up with Kylie.

The makeup mogul and TV & social media personality is only 20-years-old, and has already made a name for herself outside of her family’s name. Kylie Cosmetics has blown up above and beyond what anyone ever expected it to, and her famous Kylie Lip Kit, launched in November 30, 2015, is now worth close to $420 million.

Jenner is the most wealthy and successful of the Kardashian-Jenner clan, surpassing her Kim Kardashian, Kris Kardashian, etc. This is one circumstance where age is relative to success.

While the public is curious how motherhood will be treating Jenner, it seems as though the makeup mogul has finally found some happiness and bliss with Stormi.

On February 10, 2018, Jenner made her first public appearance since giving birth to Stormi, with her best friend Jordyn Woods. The best friends were pictured in Los Angeles getting out of a black SUV.

While we all are praying that Stormi will be in good hands with Jenner and Travis Scott, the public is now waiting for the arrival of sister, Khloé’s, due date, as Kim’s surrogate has already given birth. Khloé is said to be due in November 2018, so the public will just have to wait and see what happens.

Since the birth of Stormi Webster, Jenner has still managed to keep a low profile and keep her social media to a minimum, as it seems that she has truly taken up the role of motherhood.

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Who knows what Kylie has in store for us next.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

 

 

Golden Globes 2018: What To Expect

The 75th annual Golden Globes Awards will be airing tonight on NBC at 8 p.m. Eastern time for all to see. The award show this year will take place at the Beverly Hilton Hotel in Beverly Hills, California, and will be hosted by Seth Meyers.

Many anticipate that the mood of this year’s Golden Globes Award Show will be a controversial and moody.

Over the course of the last year, Hollywood has been hit with some controversy surrouding the recent spur of sexual misconduct in the industry, as many celebrities have come forward with accussations recently. To say that Hollywood has not taken a hit, or has not been greatly affected by these accussations, is a lie.

Similarly, Hollywood has also taken a hit with racial and gender inequalities, as many A-listers have begun speaking out against these inequalities. Once again, giving Hollywood a run for their money.

With so many issues coming into question in the Hollywood industry, this year’s award show is one that you should not miss out on.

While past Golden Globes’ red carpets have often been filled with glitzy and glamorous outfits, things have changed. This year, we are anticipating the Golden Globes to be draped in all black, as actresses, actors, and activists are wishing to make a statement in the support of these injustices, specifically sexual harrassment, that many women and men have encountered in Hollywood. A handful of actresses and actors, who will be attending the event, have confirmed that they will be wearing black in support of movements, such as #METOO and #TIMESUP. Whether the black dress code will be effective to protest these crimes is still up for question.

Actresses, such as Meryl Streep and Michelle Williams, have already announced that they will be attending the event with activists, including the founder of the #METOO movement.

The big elephant in the room is whether or not Harvey Weinstein’s indiscretions will be addressed. Weinstein, who has often been the focus of the award show and is always seated at the prime table, is now on everyone’s mind, as he has been accussed of sexual harassment by many women, leading to the fall of his previous Hollywood studio, Weinstein Company. Whether or not his faults will be addressed is still up in the air.

With all this commotion clouding the minds of viewers and attendees, no one truly knows what to expect this year, other than Oprah Winfrey winning the Cecil B. DeMille award for lifetime achievement. Last year’s winner, Meryl Streep, who will also be attending the event, delivered a somewhat aggressive acceptance speech towards Donald Trump, speaking out about the xenophobia and discriminatory actions that exist in our society. Many are curious if Winfrey will deliver a similar speech, addressing these relevant issues in our society.

There is much to look forward to with this year’s Golden Globes, as many are curious as to how this award show will go down.

The only way to find out is to stay tuned and turn on your televisions to NBC at 8 P.M. Eastern time tonight!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

The Fourth Thursday Of Every November

Thanksgiving Day, a day that incorporates giving thanks and indulging in large amounts of delicacies, lands on the fourth Thursday of every November. It is significant to Americans specifically because it gives us an excuse to eat massive amounts of food and not feel sorry for it – JUST KIDDING. It’s really a holiday giving us an excuse to kill lots of turkies, eat them, and not feel bad for it – ONCE AGAIN, just kidding. I hate turkey anyways, and would take a honey roasted ham over turkey any day. But, really…who can pass up some good mashed potatoes?

The very first Thanksgiving that was historically recorded occurred in 1621, after December 11, 1620, when the Pilgrims had arrived at Plymouth Rock on the Mayflower. With the help of the Native Americans, the Pilgrims were able to make it through a brutal winter and ended up with a surplus of harvest for them to survive. In celebration of their successful bounty, the Native Americans and Pilgrims celebrated the very first Thanksgiving in 1621. The first Thanksgiving lasted three days, which is AWESOME and I wish this was the case today.  The bountiful feast united the Native Americans and Pilgrims together, and the feast symbolized a “thanksgiving” for their unifying efforts to create such a successful bountiful harvest. Instead of eating cranberries, however, the Pilgrims and Native Americans probably settled for something like corn. Instead of turkey, they also celebrated with five deer.

The next Thanksgiving was celebrated in June 1676, and was celebrated on-and-off until it was sanctioned as a true holiday in 1941, during Franklin D. Roosevelt’s administration. Getting Thanksgiving to become a national holiday was much difficult than one imagined, as many people opposed of the idea. Ironically, as Americans and colonists continued to celebrate the holiday, Native Americans were slowly isolated from the holiday festivities, though they are a vital aspect of the emergence of the holiday.

During the years, Thanksgiving was used to celebrate a multitude of different victories or purposes for Americans, but today, the holiday tends to serve a few core purposes for Americans.

Today, the main purpose of Thanksgiving is to unite with others, specifically families, and give thanks for the blessings, hardships, and circumstances of their lives. Thanksgiving is a beautifully unique holiday that allows for a multitude of individuals to come together for a similar cause and celebrate. Similarly, it is a beautiful holiday, as we dedicate a whole day for giving thanks for everything in our life. In addition, it also gives us an opportunity to help those who may not be as fortunate. Thanksgiving kicks off the holiday season of giving and allows individuals to extend themselves to help not only themselves, but others. Though a holiday should not dictate whether one should help the less fortunate, it has become a unified purpose for the holiday, which is something we can communally celebrate. Finally, football has become an enormous part of the Thanksgiving holiday, with the first Thanksgiving football game taking place in the mid-1870s. In fact, Thanksgiving football games are nearly as old of a tradition as the holiday itself. Makes you wonder if there is enough giving thanks and too much football, huh?

To me, the most important aspect of Thanksgiving is the fact that I get to be unified with my loved ones and share food, memories, and happiness. Giving gratitude for one’s life is one universal idea of Thanksgiving that is shared across all religions.

This year, I am grateful for my mental, physical, and emotional health, my growth that I have made over the course of the year, all my friendships, whether they lasted or not, my entire family, who has loved and supported me since birth, my education, my job, and my dedication. I have so much to be thankful for – it is truly hard to put it all into words. In addition, I am extremely grateful for all the hardships I have faced and encountered over the past few years, which have helped shaped the person that I am. Similarly, I am so grateful for the journey of self-discovery and self-love I am currently on. If I could give back the amount of gratitude and blessings that I feel for my life, I would spend days giving back unlimited amounts of happiness, love and gratitude. I wish this was possible!

If you are not in the mood to feast, invest some time into charity, whether you decide to make donations or work at a homeless shelter, assisting in helping others. I can almost gaurantee you that this line of work will be much more gratifying and you will give gratitude for the life you live. Similarly, the people you are helping will show much more gratitude towards you and your services that that will trump even the best mashed potatoes. Or, even better, you could feast and proceed to help others who are less fortunate as you.

Do not forget to give thanks for all your blessings and misfortunes this year! Eat lots of apple and pumpkin pie, but DO NOT FORGET THE MASHED POTATOES!

Let’s kick this giving holiday season on a good note!

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

 

Make Plans To Look Forward To

Even when we are caught up in the routines of our daily lives and obligations, it is important for human beings to break our routines and make plans that we can look forward to. Unfortunately, we will not always have the time or the energy to do things that we enjoy 24/7, however, planning and taking time for ourselves to engage in some fun activities help keep us sane.

Constantly working, a lack of funds, a lack of resources, or taking on a full course load may all be factors that may not allow us to do every thing that we constantly wish we were doing. Do not let this stop you from thinking that your life deserves some fun and excitement every once in a while.

Small plans, such as getting drinks at happy hour with your friends, a helpful study session, or grabbing a late-night bite, all play a substantial factor in breaking your daily routines of obligations, such as studying or full-time work. Even making plans months in advance, though it will require some patience, can help you stay motivated and happier living your daily life. Even including a small hike every morning, or taking time out of your day to simply treat yourself to a small shopping trip after work, are all small things you can engage in every once in a while to bring light to your stressful life. Not every plan has to be a huge ordeal, though making travel plans or attending a huge music festival is something that we should all make time for at some point in our lives. The small things count though.

Sometimes, we have no choice but to endure daily routines, but often forget that the small plans or activities we engage in are all important and should be appreciated to the fullest.

Making plans allow us to be excited and to keep things fresh in our lives. And, when we are constantly fufilling our life’s obligations and responsibilities, we can sometimes forget to allow ourselves time to do something fun and exciting.

This month, I challenge you to make some plans and stir up your calendar with fun plans that you can look forward to in your life. Do something for yourself to get yourself excited and motivated! Fun plans can serve as an incentive to work harder and use that to your advantage. Do not let your responsibilities boggle you down and make time with the time that you have! This is very important.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade

Curiously Curious

When Curious George and Dora the Explorer are your secret spirit animals, do not be ashamed. The power of curiosity is incredibly powerful, and help shape the person we are and the experiences we go through.

Curiosity does have its downfalls, however, it should not be looked upon as frowned upon. In order for us to know and understand the world, it is important to be curious. Being curious can get us in trouble from time to time, when it is utilized as a scenarios where it is not necessary. With that said, sometimes ignorance is bliss. So, setting boundaries with your curiosity is something that should be taken into consideration.

On a positive note, curiosity and a willingness to explore the world we live in is mostly seen as a positive personality trait. This curiousness that everyone experiences to a certain level allows us to do so much.

Curiosity allows for a craving to learn, which is always viewed as positive. This kind of learning goes beyond textbooks and what we learn, and may sometimes push us to want to actually experience what is unknown to us. In some aspects, our curiosity makes us more knowledgeable.

Traveling is one way your curiosity can be utilized positively. Often, individuals find themselves utilizing their curiosity to learn about the cultures of other nations, explore different parts of the regions, leading to a higher level of cultural awareness. It almost is one of the most motivating factors that dictate our decision-making process.

Among many things, curiosity is something that we all universally feel as human beings and makes us all united. What you are curious about is unique to everyone, but how we go about our curiosity is what sets us apart. However, curiosity is motivating and a beautiful thing.

I, myself, am a very curious person. I truly experience curiosity on a daily basis, as I am always trying to learn and experience everything that I can possible. My curiosity has helped me expand my learning beyond what I am taught in school, and has become one of the most motivating traits that I have attained.

Though society does not highlight the importance of the quality of curiosity, it is something that should be celebrated frequently. As it seems, society has undermined curiosity and placed limitations on the idea of curiosity. The reason is yet not quite understood, as we should all be able to explore our curiosity. If it were at all possible, every one in our entire worldwide community would have access and the ability to explore their curiosity. Though society has placed limitations on this quality, do not let it stop you from attempting to fully embrace that side of you.

Being curious shows a willingness to learn and expand your horizons – these are both positive qualities.

Let your curiosity take over your mind.

xo,

Aichan Tewahade